taboo Erotics
Mental context sets the stage for high physical arousal in a very short amount of time. Basically a taboo core erotic theme can be used to enhance your access to pleasure.
It must be understood when playing with taboo erotics that neither partner have any intention of acting out the things that they may come up with. Clear agreements between partners must be in place when exploring realms that feel risky. But, when you find someone (partner or practitioner) you can trust to explore this with it is truly life changing and mind altering.
A core erotic theme of mine is the Good Girl and Daddy polarity of archetypes (in some spaces referred to as DDLG - Daddy Dom / Little Girl). I have only explored this in my life for a relatively short amount of time and it may have not even been accessible in the past based on the version of myself I was at the time. To truly dive wholeheartedly into what I am calling ‘Taboo Erotics’ has been the most revealing practice for me. What I have learned about myself and my partners I could never have found without a certain fearless desire to understand the nature of my own unique erotic energy… Exploring the Taboo offers endless explorations of archetypal dynamics that are embedded in our DNA. When we set them free and allow them to be expressed, they stop having the same underlying control over us. In the words of Mr. Rogers, “What is mentionable, is manageable.” They have the chance to become a fun game for us rather than a shadow in our proverbial closet.
So let’s break it down a bit… What is true for me (and I feel for a high percentage of folks that explore this particular dance) is that its not about a father and a daughter. But rather “Daddy” represents a person that can provide safety and comfort. “Daddy” is in service to the whole as a compassionate provider. This is highly desirable to the Good Girl in all of us.
Let’s look at the “Good Girl”… They are not a “Good Girl” because they are subservient, but rather deeply in surrender to their own erotic energy. Asking for exactly what they want and bending their desire like a river rushing out from a glacier. A good Daddy acts as the river banks for them to flow through in their magnificence and power. They want to be seen and revered. In their tender and innocent power even if their bodies are far beyond youth. They are a Good Girl when they are in the flow. When they say ‘Please, Daddy’ they are asking to be held: Please can you hold my desire - whatever it may be in this moment.
Daddy loves to feel the Good Girl who is embodied in her pleasure. Daddies love to know that they are acknowledged for the support and compassionate care. They are in love in this pure expression of clear roles in this moment together. At any moment either of them may pull back into a more dynamic version of themselves and stop the game.
If you are looking to explore further, breathe into either of these roles. Can you feel an internal Daddy wanting to hold, care and tend to another? Do you sense a Good Girl within daring to explore the edges of pleasure?
You know it’s right if it feels good. Dare to be yourself ;)
Love, Cosmo.