Sex organs are constantly relaying information about our deeper feeling whether we notice or not. It is common to hear this is true for women; their pussy's often being a clear barometer of their truth and resonance between their inner landscape, their outside world and what is happening (although non-concordance is a common experience for many). Yet we hardly hear this can also be true for Men and their cocks. As a cock owner, if you tune in beyond your critical mind, you may discover moments when you have experienced something you have been authentically enjoying with your full self and you may have also experienced when something isn't quite right and you experience a discrepancy between your mind, body and your cock.

Mental context sets the stage for high physical arousal in a very short amount of time.  Basically a taboo core erotic theme can be used to enhance your access to pleasure.

It must be understood when playing with taboo erotics that neither partner have any intention of acting out the things that they may come up with. Clear agreements between partners must be in place when exploring realms that feel risky. But, when you find someone (partner or practitioner) you can trust to explore this with it is truly life changing and mind altering.

Are men allowed to say NO? 

Do men have the same right to state their boundaries as women? Do men have the same right  to make claims of violation as women do? 

I have had women colleagues flat out tell me “Boo hoo, poor men,” when I have shared details about the reality of being a man and the challenges that came up for me and the other men I work with. This disregard has been infuriating and also added to my own silence. In sharing what I’m about to share, which is very personal, this silence has had an impact on how I relate to other men and the challenges that arise for them. 

He stood there as I explored touching his warm skin, pressing my body into him. He wasn’t allowed to move. He wasn’t allowed to reach up and touch me. He could only stand there. He watched me and breathed heavily. I loved it. I loved having the spaciousness to let my desire pour forth, without any interruption, to learn how I wanted to want a man’s body, instead of just allowing myself to the the desired. Because, OF COURSE I had desire for men’s bodies, I could tell I was attracted to someone and that I mentally objectified them, but to be given the gift of a body that I was allowed to ravish?! MMM!

Porn is entertainment, not education, not experience, and only a very narrow version of real life. There are many ways we choose to avoid the real experiences of life through entertainment. And because sexuality in our culture has been so repressed it has manifested in a secretive world of entertainment. 

Rapid ejaculation can be an ongoing issue in relationships.

At first I thought ‘I'm too sensitive’. As I began to learn more about my body, I began to celebrate my sensitivity and learn to go slower with myself and my lovers. To move the energy around my body more, and to use my breath to access the pleasure of sensitivity while moving my body in a way that savoured the sensation without pushing it too far. Staying deeply in pleasure and deciding when or if I then want to climax. 

I lay there with my soft cock in my hand and this realization came to me. Connection over erection.  What does that mean? I ponder for a moment and reflected on the way I interact with other bodies in an erotic way and how I feel when I’m connecting with them. I notice that I have not offered the same depth of connection to myself, when exploring eros on my own, as I often do with a partner.